June is Pride Month, and I’m fortunate to live in Toronto as the city celebrates it to the fullest. Pride Toronto puts on events to celebrate all month long, from concerts to the grand finale Pride Parade. Since ZoZo is getting older, I thought this year would be the perfect time to have a little bit of a more formal conversation with her about Pride and what this means for our family and others. So when she asked me to paint her face, I thought “let’s do a rainbow and talk about Pride!”.
Zozo initially wanted me to paint a giraffe on her face, however I suggested a ‘pride rainbow’ and she was all for it! As she stayed very still so I could get the rainbow just right, I spoke to her about how important Pride is for many of our family and friends. I used the following products on this look:
You may have a tricky time finding the UD Full Spectrum palette as it has been discontinued, however other options are the Sephora Pro Editorial Palette, Viseart Editorial Brights Eyeshadow Palette or NYX Brights Ultimate Shadow Palette.
For this look, I simply searched the Pride flag to ensure that I got the colour in the right order. I applied eyeshadow primer around the area that would be covered with the eyeshadow. Then I started at the top arch of her eyebrow with the eyeshadow shade that best resembled red. This Full Spectrum paletter does not have a red shade, however it does have a bold fuschia that leans towards red so this was good enough for me to use.
I used a regular semi-fluffy eyeshadow brush. I wanted something that would help me blend it nicely but not thin out the shades. The Full Spectrum palette is super pigmented so it helped very much, however I did have to go over 2-3 times depending on the boldness of the shade.
Once I finished with all the shades, I took a sheer shimmery shade and went over all the colours of the rainbow to add a slight sparkle and glimmer. She was over the moon to see the glittery effect this added.
I then let her pick any lip colour she wanted. She chose light blue, so I mixed white (primary 1) and blue (primary 5) from the ABH Lip Palette and applied the new shade to her lips using a lip brush.
She was so incredibly delighted with the results of her Pride Month Face Painting.
As I did her makeup, or painted her face, I spoke to her about Pride and how important it is for many of our family and friends. My goal is for my daughter to learn that love is love, and that everyone deserves the same right to love regardless of their sexual orientation. These are the top 5 points we spoke about:
– People are proud of who they are and of who they love, and they particularly celebrate this during Pride.
– Those that identify as LGBTQ+ has fought hard for this right to love, and are still working hard today.
– The colours of the rainbow stand for the diversity within the LGBTQ+ community.
– Not all couples are the same. Mommy and Daddy may be a heterosexual couple, but other families have two mommies or two daddies (She is quite familiar with the diverse types of families as it’s something we speak of very openly).
– Most importantly, I told her that mommy and daddy would love her no matter what and that she should always be proud of who she is and who she loves.
I spoke to her in terms that she could understand. I asked her if there were any terms that she wasn’t sure of the meaning, and of course I explained them to her. I also made sure to take my time and ask her questions about what she thought. I wanted to ensure we were talking about this together, having a conversation, and it wasn’t just about me talking at her.
I find that speaking to children about Pride early on removes the taboo from these topics, not only from your home but within your community and society. There is no need to speak of these topics in a super serious setting in an awkward dinner table conversation at the “right age”. I would encourage you to make these topics a part of your every day life, and not treat it as something unusual or sensitive. I expect my daughter to treat someone from the LGBTQ+ community in the same way as anyone else she meets. After all, we are all human. We are all people. So we need to lead by example and treat the topic of Pride and sexual orientation in the same way.
I hope that the way I approached the topic of Pride with my daughter helps you speak openly to your children about the LGBTQ+ community. Having these conversations early on is an excellent way of establishing that open communication with a little ones from a young age. They will establish the trust of speaking to you openly about various topics, which is an essential part of a parent-child relationship.
Have you spoken to your kids about Pride? Let me know how you went about it in the comments below!